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Copyright (c) 2008 Debra Sale Wendler
Are you struggling with your child's signs of autism, ADD or ADHD (attention deficit disorder), ODD (oppositional defiant disorder), bipolar disorder, Asperger syndrome, and PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder – Not Otherwise Specified)?
You and your child are probably frustrated because so many things have not worked.
Probably worried about the future of his son, and yours.
If your child is very angry and defiant "and is constantly challenging his every word, you're exhausted and wounded, perhaps even angry, because parents should not be so hard.
Here's the good news: While your child's behavior problems may seem complicated, the solutions are simple.
Here's why you stuck:
Built in the condition of your child is a parent-child relationship destroyer that can not be stopped until you understand the condition of the child completely. It's not what the books say. It's not what the case studies show.
But what has this condition really means for your child. How does he or she interprets everything you do and say. That is totally different from what you think.
That explains the disconnect between his intentions and love for your child will cooperate. And the underlying reason is as amazing as the solution.
No way would she ever. So you can forgive yourself, now. It's not their fault.
Now you know why you're stuck, we'll talk about what works.
1. Understanding what your child really needs to may provide. Children with ADHD, ODD, Asperger syndrome and PDD-NOS and autism are easily emotionally overwhelmed. Therefore, it is important to remain even mild, especially if your child is not.
You need to meet the special needs of your child, including their need for a visual reward system, his need to learn the appropriate emotional expression, and their need for professional training and values.
2. The adoption of new ways of speaking and acting that your child understands and respects. Your child has an attention span. So you need to learn how to speak in six bits a second. Bored while talking about him and makes him feel respected. Also need to learn new gestures to replace those innocent gestures probably use all day that inflame the angry children.
3. Using simple tools that retrieve the cooperation of his son and restore order at home. These tools help you motivate your child to improve his behavior and win the praise and care.
The most important tool is a visual reward system, also called a graph or chart star behavior. Without it, you're stuck begging, bribery, and threateningthey not work. The secret is to find a reward system that is easy to use.
4. Preparing your son with the values and skills with which to succeed at home and school, and make friends. He can not learn these values and skills by observing others. Their attention span does not.
He needs to teach him basic values, including honesty, charity, and responsibility. Then you're ready to learn the simple value-based skills, for example, tell the truth, sharing, and how to care for themselves and their belongings. He also needs to learn social skills, for example, to appear and speak on the phone. Without training in social skills, your child will not have the capacity to develop lasting and meaningful relationships.
You can solve this
Sounds easy, and is, with the right guide. It is much easier and less frustrating than repeatedly trying, struggling, and failing. I invite you to use these tips to build your relationship with your child, and reconnect with the happiest times of the family.
About the Author:
If you want to calm your challenging child, I invite you to claim your free child behavior-improving report “Three Easy Ways to Improve Your Child’s Behavior Today!” You can download part one when you subscribe at http://www.AdhdParentingTips.com It explains the methods I used to improve my son’s ADHD/ODD behavior by 72% in 3 weeks. The sooner you start this, the easier it is to help your child. You can do this.
From Debra Sale Wendler – Respect Effect Mom and ADHD Parenting Success at http://www.AdhdParentingSuccess.com
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