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If you notice your loved one has a borderline personality disorder, while they do not, or presented with recent news, there are some things you should definitely do and not do to help. This is true for doctors and, and often family members and doctors actually make the person with the disease much sicker. By contrast, there are many things you can do to help reduce or relieve symptoms. Many are surprised at how much good advice they received other, was really hurting their loved ones and make their lives more miserable.
I have suffered from this disease and know first hand what support those suffering from borderline personality disorder. Below I've compiled my top eight ways to help someone with BPD:
1. Use the validation of a nonjudgmental language. I have this as number one for a reason! No matter what he says, repeating something to them I just said, just to know they are listening. It is useful to correct, blame, lecture, etc. Listen without jumping to conclusions.
2. Find treatment options and present them to us. Do not expect us to be able have the energy to do this ourselves if we can not get out of bed.
3. Educate yourself. There are logical reasons why we behave the way that we do! If you can understand "why", then it makes everything small and large, the choices we have to do every day much easier. You will receive clear guidance for the lives of their loved ones, their own lives and not learn to take personal behavior (very important!)
4. Reduce your expectations wayyyyyyy below. Accepting that we are severely affected in the main operating areas of the brain and therefore are unable to things that come easily for others. This is a great one for people to swallow! Here's a typical conversation: "But she's so talented! Has a Ph.D. and yet can not even keep a job! I can not accept that he can not work! "Trust me, if not working, maybe not. But with your support and appropriate treatment, will work again! But it may take a while.
5. Learn to remain calm in crisis situations. If you think this is impossible, think again. We live in the internal crisis of most of our lives and we are learning to stay calm – you can too! This model for us so we know that is possible!
6. Continue to model appropriate behavior, but not try to "teach" us the right or the worst thing to do until ready. This seems counter-intuitive to parents 101, but often can not tolerate the instruction of our loved ones without inducing great shame and fear.
7. Also, if you are lucky enough to be married to one of us, do not expect that we can negotiate through the typical daily life decisions with you until the Our main symptoms of the disease are somewhat under control. Once we learn to regulate our emotions, to understand that many of our thoughts are altered and the increase in effective communication skills, you will be pleased to find our conversations, becoming more productive and enjoyable.
8. Take care of yourself.
9. Go to support groups!
Above all, never, never, never discount the power of your love! This clearly demonstrates his love vulnerable that will help heal the incredible damage they usually feel. In addition, make sure your own needs are validated by some lovers, confidants. Disorder Borderline personality is a curable disease and many will find rich, rewarding relationships with those who once were bitter agony of the disease.
Tami Green
If you would like additional tips on dealing with your loved one’s Borderline Personality Disorder, either from coaching with me personally, or through free resources, please visit my website at: http://www.borderlinepersonalitysupport.com or email me: tami@borderlinepersonalitysupport.com
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