bipolar people and relationships
Bipolar Disorder?
Do bipolar people find more of a need to be in a relationship then regular people without the desease.I ask as it seems to me when they get out of one they immediatly try and find another.They seem also to destroy all their relationships.with no regard to who they hurt.Will they ever be happy with just one.This person is on meds,conselling and just seems to go from one to another,never seeming to be happy.And never seems to be able to sit back and might i say rest before searching again.Your imput would be helpful. Thanks
Self-Destructive in Relationships
A person who is used to emotionally hiding as a survival defense is particularly suited for forming a complimentary love killing relationship with a bipolar person. This self-sacrificing, self-defeating submissiveness of the partner activates resentment towards the bipolar person’s controlling behavior. Weakness and powerlessness are the result of the failure to stand up and assert oneself in the face of the bipolar person’s constant self-talking (manic phases) and energy drains (depressed stages).
The bipolar’s hypersensitivity to being hurt coupled with paranoia makes a self-defeating partner feel guilty for expressing any displeasure with the bipolar person’s destructive behavior and mood swings. The partner’s loss of self actually reinforces the bipolar’s maladaptive responses. Thus, they find themselves in a never-ending cycle of ups and downs. This dance of non-intimacy provides a very unstable family situation that teeters on dissolution. The bipolar person is constantly engaged in a desperate, frantic attempt to reclaim a lost self, while the self-defeating partner loses whatever sense of self there is.
Bipolar Mood Disorder is a debilitating and destructive disorder. However, it can be minimized with therapy. If you or someone you know displays some of the above characteristics, please seek qualified professional help.
I hope this helps .
Damaging Relationships
