bipolar wife wants divorce
My bipolar wife, how continue to love her?
I asked a question the other day saying that my wife was relatively stable. Well, shes not. She told me today she was very depressed. I can’t seem to notice or know when she is starting to have problems. She did call to see a therapist but she doesn’t want to change her meds. I’m committed to her and I’m not going to divorce her, but this is getting hard. I’m growing very distant and it is getting harder and harder to love her. I’ve been through a divorce and it sucks. Knowing that my wife is bipolar I can’t imagine what it would do to her and our kids.
Help!! I’m loosing faith and strength to hold on. I wanting to do other things that are contrary to our marriage.
I’m not a psychiatrist, psychologist, therapist, counselor or a mental health professional, in any other way — but, I’m in a similar situation.
I’m gay, and my partner, with whom I’ve had a relationship for three years, was diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality disorders.
I understand that at times it is very . . . trying. Realize that it isn’t necessarily that you don’t love HER, but that you don’t love the way she’s acting. You can’t take away her feelings — and you can force her to change them.
I’ve done everything that I could think to do for Colby — including finding in a therapist, finding him a psychiatrist, offering my professional opinions on medications, offering him guidance and encouragement in following his medication regimen, locating support groups for him, encouraging him to attend, and offering to attend with him . . . and, I think — as importantly, giving him his space. As much as I want to be right beside him, to protect him, and make sure that nothing goes wrong . . . I can’t — because he doesn’t feel comfortable with that. I don’t love his actions, but I love him — very much — and so all that I can do is hope for better days for him — perhaps a day when he isn’t depressed . . . when the “voices” stop . . . when he doesn’t see me as an attacker trying to hurt him constantly — when he doesn’t fear that I’ll leave him. . . and when he doesn’t try to push me away.
But, until them . . . all that I can do is love him, encourage him, and support him in every way I can think to.
I wish you luck in your endeavor. . . and if you need a sympathetic ear, feel free to message me on here — and I’ll send you my e-mail address.
~Peace.
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