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Ironically, perfectionists strive to be all right, but often end up feeling like they are doing wrong … because perfectionism is a flawed approach to life.
Perfectionism is one of the human tendencies that psychologists call "overdetermined."
When you call an act or attitude "overdetermined" means a psychologist who has many causes. Another way of saying this is to suggest that there are many different motivations that can drive the same behavior. We all want the best … put our best foot forward. At the same time, we will not be negligent, thoughtless, stupid mistakes or seem to lack a trial. Individuals receive the encouragement and reward from parents, culture and peers to point to a high standard and like everywhere is punished, or to correct real deficiencies or perceived. The aspirations and critical voices are internalized by all of us and influence our choices.
Individuals vary in their susceptibility to be driven by positive and negative pressures and environments that are vary in the amount of pressure or reward offered.
Levels of perfectionism therefore vary from individual to individual, and may also vary within an individual depending on the value that they, or significant others, where performance in different areas of life. A person may, for example, be a perfectionist on the job or school projects, but not perfectionists about housekeeping. By Above all however, is problematic when perfectionism is a trait found in many parts of the life of an individual.
Four determining indicators of perfectionism
Personnel Rules
- Setting high standards.
- Attaching great importance to these rules.
- Self-respect is based on these rules, namely: "If you do not meet these standards I will be a second-class person." (With value of more your mind)
Organization
- Preoccupation with details, rules, lists, order and organization.
Concern over mistakes
- The negative reactions to mistakes.
- Trend interpret the errors as a failure.
- Belief that one loses the respect of others for mistakes.
Doubting of actions
- Duda ability to perform a task.
Early life plays a formative role in the development of perfectionism. Anxiety and the concern of the errors is one factor that distinguishes the perfectionism of a healthy effort and desire for excellence. The origin of these concerns often can be found in childhood.
Parents' Expectations
- "My parents expected excellence.
Criticism parent
- "I was punished for being less than perfect."
- "I could never reach the levels of my parents. "
Perfectionists can turn their focus inwards or outwards.
No single type of perfectionism.
Self-Oriented Perfectionism
- High value, unattainable goals for yourself.
- Considering himself a failure when these objectives are not met.
Oriented perfectionism, other
- Perfectionist goals and expectations for others.
- Hostile feelings when these goals are not met.
Socially prescribed perfectionism
- Feeling that others have unobtainable standards and targets set for you.
- The feeling that one must meet these objectives to obtain approval other.
Psychologically, perfectionism is a defense.
Faced with internal and external pressure, perfectionism is a bid for control. It can be seen as an attempt to defeat the anxiety caused by chance, chaos and uncertainty.
It is the great paradox of perfectionism that, while it designed to produce excellence and to ensure the success and acceptance, which often does instead is create feelings of shame, inadequacy and fear of relationships.
Perfectionists pay a high price for its attempt to create security conditions. Because perfectionism also limits the spontaneity, flexibility, and lucky accident that tends to limit or block creativity. Perhaps even worse than the constraints on creativity is the limit it imposes on free expression.
Perfectionism continually undermines self-esteem because it refuses to recognize the compassion of human limitations, shortcomings and weaknesses that define our uniqueness individual and we must accept to to accept ourselves.
Susan Meindl, MA, is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Montreal Canada. She has a special interest in Jungian ideas and practices a Jungian approach to psychodynamic psychotherapy
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