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Mom has dementia. And it has its rough days. But you can not fix his insanity, right? So you probably can not fix her being difficult, Right?
Here's the good news. Wrong! Not that you can set mom, but you can learn how to rebuild his relationship with her. Is well, I understand that you do not want to do that. But you want to have an easier time, right? And really, the best car mom wants to have an easier time, Right?
So think of this as a quick fix for the time while it is increasingly easy to be your mom caregiver. First Instead, sit back and take a few slow deep breaths. Scan your own body for a moment. That gesture – his anxiety. Fists? His repressed anger. Strange feeling in the solar plexus? His fear. And this is normal for caregivers.
Unfurrow your forehead, loose fists, throw hand through her womb and respiration. Do not have time for this new age violin Faddle? Yes, you. Because his mother is often difficult in direct response to their own emotions.
After dementia is very scary fact. You can not think well, not quite remember, you're on your own, often among people who may even secretly guilt for having dementia.
So it is very comforting when a caregiver can slow down, relax, talk gently, keep things simple and wait patiently. That's you. The more you do these things, unless your mother is afraid. Because she can feel the tension and anger and fear. Then it's side-to-right and on time.
How to help a person with dementia feel safe:
1. and slow down to their level physically, so you have eyes to make eye contact;
2. maintaining simple communication;
3. If you need cooperation, take things one step at a time and wait for the completion of each step;
4. no hurry, because that slows a person with dementia;
5. do not argue because he will not win. A person with dementia can not make rational step by thought way, so let's lock on the stubborn resistance as a defense;
6. suggest, bribery, offer, persuading and re-direct instead of giving orders;
7. be loving;
8. Use humor;
9. not treated as children;
10. treat them with respect, ask them what they want, the choice supply (limited selection, please!).
If, despite all their efforts, this person is angry with you. Ask yourself what you did to scare and acknowledge their feelings.
As in:
"Of course we feel angry now. I understand. I'm sorry if I did something to upset you."
When someone is angry, step back to hit range. If your husband is absolutely not move to comfort an angry man with dementia. One step back and give the space need. They will feel more secure, the danger will be avoided. You can also leave your literal space. Go to another room and then return.
These approaches social approaches are working with someone who has what we might call the regular dementia. If you're dealing with a person with anger problems are likely important have a long history, you should seek help from a mental health specialist to make a plan of care that keeps him and the security person.
Frena Gray-Davidson is an Alzheimer’s caregiver, support group facilitator and author of five books on caregiving including her latest, “Alzheimer’s 911: Hope, Help and Healing for Caregivers”, available from http://www.amazon.com. Frena presents direct care staff training in dementia behaviors and educates family caregivers at seminars and conferences nationally and internationally. You can find her website at http://alzguide.com/ and you can email her with your caregiving issues or have an-line dementia consultation through her website. She has a newspaper column titled The Caregiver Coach dealing with hands-on care matters involving seniors and old age issues. To get a free monthly online newsletter for caregivers, email her at frenagd@gmail.com
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