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Raising a child with ADD / ADHD can be very difficult. Parenting does not cause ADD / ADHD, but how parents interact with your child can do things better or worse. Here are ten ways to do things better:
1. Provide a structured environment. Children with ADD / ADHD work better in an environment predictable structure, programs,. Is your home a bit hectic and chaotic? If so, the unpredictability and lack of structure and routines can add to the difficulties your child's ADD. To improve the structure, the daily schedules and routines, predictable rules and consequences, more supervision, more organization, etc.
2. Create incentives. Incentives make a big difference in behavior. Incentive is given when the task is more interesting or fun, or there is a predictable reward significance or consequence. Children with ADD / ADHD need to know ita's the value of his effort to behave appropriately.
3. Action, not words. Children with ADD / ADHD do not misbehave more often because Dona't know what is right, but because they have a performance problem. Conferences, complaints and allegations are not helpful. Children learn best from the consequences of their behavior. Consequences immediate use of rewards for good conduct, penalties for misbehavior. Dona't delay.
4. Set for success. Before tackling a problem, sometimes it helps if we can step back and see what they can contribute to the problem. Then we can work to change things first. Here are some ideas to consider: rearrange the environment and development consistent routines / make sure their orders and requests are clear, courteous, and understand / be treated with care, respect and love / teach new skills / clarify standards and expectations / be consistent setting limits and discipline.
5. Positives before negatives. A good relationship with your child, emphasizing the positive aspects of the child and its recognition good behavior is important if the methods of discipline to be effective and self-esteem is to be maintained. Catch your child doing something right. Be quick and liberal in the praise. Make sure your child receives a great deal of positive attention on a consistent basis. Offer significant rewards for good behavior. Emphasis on strengths. Increased positive interactions.
6. Be careful what behaviors that enable success. Be careful not to reinforce the misbehavior by paying too much attention, giving the desired profitability, reversing or discuss in a power struggle, parents, etc., often inadvertently reinforce bad behavior (whining, temper tantrums, rebellion, moodiness, etc..) Identify maintenance payment of repetitive misbehavior, and not disclose.
7. Become expert in the delivery of appropriate consequences for their child's behavior. Pay attention to your child in-kind Behavioral and Bada-monitoring and the consequences appropriate. Children learn behavior and are motivated by the results and outcomes of their behavior. For good behavior, make sure you are recognized and specific immediately rewarded, praise, tangible rewards, positive attention, special privileges. For Behavioral wrong to ignore the misbehavior of importance, set limits on the major misconduct and always follow through with negative consequences. Determine in advance what the consequences are adequate and that the punishment fits the crime. Make sure the rules are clear beforehand.
8. "Stop, think, make a plan.Â" problem Encourage good coping skills and help your child reduce impulsive behavior training your child to catch yourself, slow down and think what happen if …, a "key situations. teach and motivate your child to think before they act in three steps: 1) A" Stop "A-catch yourself, 2) a" Think " A-about possible actions and potential consequences, 3) a "MAKE A PLAN" Aa better deal with the situation. Parents can help their children learn to solve problems trying to encourage and strengthen the use of this strategy.
9. Anticipate problems and have a plan for children with ADHD. often repeat the same problems in similar situations again and again. You can anticipate what the configuration can be difficult. Prepare and have a plan for these situations. When you enter a situation of what provided, follow these steps:
1) review the rules, 2) establish a reward for appropriate behavior (incentives), 3) establishes a penalty for disobedience standards, 4) give positive attention for good behavior, 5) monitoring through
with the consequences.
10. Change thoughts useless. Many children with ADHD become negative thinkers over time due to negative experiences they have accumulated. Self-esteem can suffer. Help your child identify their own negative thoughts, and the fight against useless thinking with helpful thinking. Sale: Â Why do you think that? A "and" how you feel when you think that? A ", help your child think of more helpful thoughts to replace the useless. Try to model realistic, positive thinking. Learn to deal with errors and failures is important for children with ADHD. Emphasize that a mistake does not mean he is stupid or evil.
William Morgan, Psy.D. is a psychologist and ADD coach in the greater Philadelphia area. For more information on his e-book TIPS ON THE MANAGEMENT OF ADULT ADD go to http://www.ManageADD.com/ebook.html or visit his website at http://www.ManageADD.com for other helpful resources.
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