pathological lying bipolar
in sickness and in health, what about mental health issues?
do you think this scripture applies to mental health issues which are destroying the peace in the family and in the marriage? example: impotency, pathological lying, bipolar, anger control….would divorce be allowed biblically under those conditions?
he did not tell me he had struggled with sexual performance for years, had no desire for sex, lied about everything from military service, war wounds to other grandiose accomplishments that weren’t true. i’ve just discovered all these lies, and he was recently diagnosed with bipolar. he has no intimacy with me physically or emotionally and is riddled with unstable behavior patterns. we’ve been married 4 years, and things have gone from bad to worse.
is it possible that vows made with a person who lied about every aspect of his life are not truly vows at all? i’m now thinking that i should have had the marriage annulled as soon as i realized what kind of person this was, but i didn’t because i believed in commitment.
I was not aware that this section of traditional vows was scripturally based; can you give the verse?
Mental illness *is* sickness. I have know two couples very well who have weathered mental illness — severe depression in one case, bipolar disorder and OCD in the other. Both couples are still together, still lovingly fighting what they consider “their” fight, not just “her” disease.
Both couples are also atheist, by the way.
edit — in response to your additions, the issue at hand is not his mental health, but the lies he told. I would say divorce is more than justified, as he completely misrepresented himself to you. If you have a spiritual leader, a good long talk with him/her is what I would advise.
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