my bipolar child
Monday, March 22nd, 2010
Situations That Occur Over Discipline
1) You find yourself yelling all of the time at your ADHD child. Why won’t he or she just listen to you the first time when you ask him/her to do something?
A: Your child has gotten so used to only having to listen to you when you yell. He or she knows you mean business when you are yelling. So until you start to yell the child knows they can buy time. You need to show your child you mean business the first time when you speak calmly.
2) Homework time at home is a disaster. Trying to get your child to do his or her homework on their own just does not work most of the time. He or she will complain they are too tired or they don’t know how to do it. You know your child is smart as he or she has given you the answers at an earlier date. No matter how you talk to your child he or she just does not want to do their schoolwork. You may even sit down and try to help the child. You probably think the child is just giving you a hard time so you end up doing the work.
A: Your child may know the answer to the homework question. He or she just may not understand the question on how to answer the problem. Some children with ADHD have a hard time processing directions given to them. You can read the question to your child and make sure the child understands the question by explaining it to them with an example. Once your child understands the question you can see the smile in your child’s eyes.
3) Not only is your child not listening to you, he or she is not listening to his/her teachers at school. Your child’s teacher may complain that your child is daydreaming or disrupting the class while he/she is teaching.
A: If your child does not understand the teacher’s lessons he/she will quickly become bored and look for other things to do while wasting time at school. You can have your child put on prescribed medication by a physician. Or you can follow a special diet for ADHD children, exercise, nature walks and organization.
4) One day you do not discipline your child for making you late to school and work because he/she could not find his/her shoes. The next day you punish your child and so forth.
A: Children with ADHD need a set routine. The child just functions better. If you can implement a daily routine especially on school days, your household and stress level will become much better. If you punish your child one time for a certain situation be sure to follow through with the same consequences again. This way your child will learn, “If I do this, I know what will happen.”
Summary
Your child will listen to you by following the above measures so your child gets used to the consequences.
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Kelley Lang is a marketing consultant for Dr. Ron Receveur.
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